I have tried:
burning the bootloader with the Sparkfun tiny avr programer and arduino as isp
successfully tested the tiny avr programer on a attiny85(bootloading and uploading blink)
burn the bootloader in arduino
using avrdude in command line to bootload with the tiny avr programer following this:
https://www.sparkfun.com/tutorials/247
bootloading with and without 16MHz crystal and 22pF caps to ground on xtal 1 and 2