Ok got it to work
I changed the delay times need to be bigger.
And finally initialized it correct.
Here is the library i endet up width. only first bit of it
But still not perfect, if i power it of and quick in again, it show nothing, but power off 5 sec and then back on it workes 
Here is the first bit of the "LiquidCrystal.cpp" i was not able to post it all it was to big.
But i am an amateur, in changing library, just lucky i got it to work, if some more capable then me have changes to make it more stable, please post.
#include "LiquidCrystal.h"
#include <stdio.h>
#include <string.h>
#include <inttypes.h>
#include "Arduino.h"
// When the display powers up, it is configured as follows:
//
// 1. Display clear
// 2. Function set:
// DL = 1; 8-bit interface data
// N = 0; 1-line display
// F = 0; 5x8 dot character font
// 3. Display on/off control:
// D = 0; Display off
// C = 0; Cursor off
// B = 0; Blinking off
// 4. Entry mode set:
// I/D = 1; Increment by 1
// S = 0; No shift
//
// Note, however, that resetting the Arduino doesn't reset the LCD, so we
// can't assume that its in that state when a sketch starts (and the
// LiquidCrystal constructor is called).
LiquidCrystal::LiquidCrystal(uint8_t rs, uint8_t rw, uint8_t enable,
uint8_t d0, uint8_t d1, uint8_t d2, uint8_t d3,
uint8_t d4, uint8_t d5, uint8_t d6, uint8_t d7)
{
init(0, rs, rw, enable, d0, d1, d2, d3, d4, d5, d6, d7);
}
LiquidCrystal::LiquidCrystal(uint8_t rs, uint8_t enable,
uint8_t d0, uint8_t d1, uint8_t d2, uint8_t d3,
uint8_t d4, uint8_t d5, uint8_t d6, uint8_t d7)
{
init(0, rs, 255, enable, d0, d1, d2, d3, d4, d5, d6, d7);
}
LiquidCrystal::LiquidCrystal(uint8_t rs, uint8_t rw, uint8_t enable,
uint8_t d0, uint8_t d1, uint8_t d2, uint8_t d3)
{
init(1, rs, rw, enable, d0, d1, d2, d3, 0, 0, 0, 0);
}
LiquidCrystal::LiquidCrystal(uint8_t rs, uint8_t enable,
uint8_t d0, uint8_t d1, uint8_t d2, uint8_t d3)
{
init(1, rs, 255, enable, d0, d1, d2, d3, 0, 0, 0, 0);
}
void LiquidCrystal::init(uint8_t fourbitmode, uint8_t rs, uint8_t rw, uint8_t enable,
uint8_t d0, uint8_t d1, uint8_t d2, uint8_t d3,
uint8_t d4, uint8_t d5, uint8_t d6, uint8_t d7)
{
_rs_pin = rs;
_rw_pin = rw;
_enable_pin = enable;
_data_pins[0] = d0;
_data_pins[1] = d1;
_data_pins[2] = d2;
_data_pins[3] = d3;
_data_pins[4] = d4;
_data_pins[5] = d5;
_data_pins[6] = d6;
_data_pins[7] = d7;
pinMode(_rs_pin, OUTPUT);
// we can save 1 pin by not using RW. Indicate by passing 255 instead of pin#
if (_rw_pin != 255) {
pinMode(_rw_pin, OUTPUT);
}
pinMode(_enable_pin, OUTPUT);
if (fourbitmode)
_displayfunction = LCD_4BITMODE | LCD_1LINE | LCD_5x8DOTS;
else
_displayfunction = LCD_8BITMODE | LCD_1LINE | LCD_5x8DOTS;
begin(16, 1);
}
void LiquidCrystal::begin(uint8_t cols, uint8_t lines, uint8_t dotsize) {
if (lines > 1) {
_displayfunction |= LCD_2LINE;
}
_numlines = lines;
_currline = 0;
// for some 1 line displays you can select a 10 pixel high font
if ((dotsize != 0) && (lines == 1)) {
_displayfunction |= LCD_5x10DOTS;
}
// SEE PAGE 45/46 FOR INITIALIZATION SPECIFICATION!
// according to datasheet, we need at least 40ms after power rises above 2.7V
// before sending commands. Arduino can turn on way befer 4.5V so we'll wait 50
delayMicroseconds(200000);
// Now we pull both RS and R/W low to begin commands
digitalWrite(_rs_pin, LOW);
digitalWrite(_enable_pin, LOW);
if (_rw_pin != 255) {
digitalWrite(_rw_pin, LOW);
}
//put the LCD into 4 bit or 8 bit mode
if (! (_displayfunction & LCD_8BITMODE)) {
// this is according to the hitachi HD44780 datasheet
// figure 24, pg 46
// we start in 8bit mode, try to set 4 bit mode
write4bits(0x03);
delayMicroseconds(9000); // wait min 4.1ms
// second try
write4bits(0x03);
delayMicroseconds(9000); // wait min 4.1ms
// third go!
write4bits(0x03);
delayMicroseconds(300);
// finally, set to 8-bit interface
write4bits(0x02); //skal på igen
command(0x2A); //4-Bit data length extension Bit RE=1; REV=0
command(0x09); //4 line display
command(0x06); //Bottom view
command(0x1E); //Bias setting BS1=1
command(0x29); //4-Bit data length extension Bit RE=0; IS=1
command(0x1B); //BS0=1 -> Bias=1/6
command(0x6E); //Devider on and set value
command(0x57); //Booster on and set contrast (BB1=C5, DB0=C4)
command(0x72); //Set contrast (DB3-DB0=C3-C0)
command(0x28); //4-Bit data length extension Bit RE=0; IS=0
} else {
// this is according to the hitachi HD44780 datasheet
