Yes, thats right, I have caps on both sides (0,1µF). On my FTDI there os GND, CTS, VCC TXD RXD and DTR. I thought DTR is the auto reset pin so I connected DTR to Pin 9 with a 0,1µF cap.
This is my FTDI programmer: http://www.ebay.de/itm/230820610037?ssPageName=STRK:MEWNX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1497.l2649#ht_500wt_1414
Again, thanks a lot for your help!