How do I use an Arduino with a grblshield for a CNC machine?

my first issue is that i cant get cool term to communicate with my pc

Well that is hardly an arduino issue is it?
From what I can gather cool term is a program that runs on the PC not one that communicates with it. Is that right?

Why do you need this, will not the arduino's IDE terminal not work.
So how are you trying to get it to work?
I am assuming you must set it's baud rate to be the same as the arduino is sending, the one defined in the Serial.begin() call.
Are you doing that?
You must also set cool terms data format to 8 data 1 stop no parity.

Links to things would help.