ok this seems to be a driver issue i guess
Don't guess. A loop-back test will confirm that the driver plus serial adapter is or is not working correctly.With a separate adapter you perform the test without the Pro Mini / just the serial adapter.
Have you tried a different USB cable?
yes I did that it does not work so yeah it is the driver
There are millions of people using the FTDI drivers. The driver is not the problem. Either the adapter is defective or you did not perform the loop-back test correctly.
If the cable is good, which you claim it is, and the correct driver is installed, which you claim it is and is very likely true from the images and multiple attempts, and the loop-back test was done correctly, which appears to be the case from your post above, then the adapter is defective.