If you can compromise on something between a DSLR and point-and-shoot-compact, I can highly recommend Sony's H-series. I have a H9 (now superseded by H11) and it really is good. Great quality, and you just can't beat the 12x zoom that a larger body gives you. Has an "automatic" mode for point-and-shoot, turn the dial to adjust separately or together the apeture/ISO/shutter/EV. Uses memory stick pro-duo, not sure if that's the type of memory stick you have, or if you have the old memory sticks.
Only problem is there is no remote / external port (that I can find - let me know if anyone knows about it), so I don't think you can trigger the camera in any way besides pushing the button on the camera body.