Hello there,some help needed

Hi there guys
I'm doing a project where I have a lilypad xbee and an arduino duemilenova and i would like to connect them through xbees.I tried successfully to program the xbees through xctu to connect with each other.Thing is until now i was using a normal lilypad not a lilypad xbee and i have no idea how to program the lilypad xbee,is it possible to get a 6 male header and solder it to program it like any other lilypad or are the pins used for some other reason?

ED:hi again,it seems i had a misunderstanding,lilypad xbee is must be connected to the lilypad mainboard xD