thats what im using and trying, noting is working
OK, he told you what to do. Why are you ignoring that advice?
Did you burn a bootloader? Do you have auto-reset circuitry properly wired?
C:\Program Files\Arduino\hardware\tools\avr/bin/avrdude -CC:\Program Files\Arduino\hardware\tools\avr/etc/avrdude.conf -v -patmega16l -cstk500v1 -PCOM1 -b19200 -v -v -v -v -t