Ugh, sorry guys. It was my IC I probably burned it when I was trying to troubleshoot what was causing my problems. The good thing is, I learned a lot and I really appreciate the help. Do you think people would find it helpful to post a tutorial on how to build a really simple programmer using an FTDI friend?
FTDI ATMega Signal directionVcc goes to +5/Vcc -->Gnd goes to Gnd -->CTS goes to Gnd <--Tx goes to Rx -->Rx goes to Tx <--On the back, cut the little jumper between the RTS padsAdd a little jumper across the DTR padsTo Use DTR, you need a 100nF (0.1uF) capacitor between the RTS pin (DTR the change above) and the ATMega's Reset pin.DTR then goes to DTRm -->