Thanks for all the help!!
Well I believe I have it connected correctly because when I click on the reset button I see the LED flicker for a second so it must be correctly wired.
I still get the sync message.
Just before I click on the upload button in Arduino IDE or right after I click on upload?
Tried both ways still get a sync message
EDITED:
Ah but wait the LED continues to flicker while the sketch is uploading. Shouldn't the LED not be lit while it is programming the chip?