damn.. I was afraid it might be under there.. and if it is..its NOT a through hole/via as I dont see it under the board either..
I'll take a pic and upload it, if for nothing else, just in case anyone else gets the same type they can follow the the pics..
yeah I do use the manual reset button finally have it timed right every time.. (same as you stated...when sketch size ..etc is displayed in IDE)
but I figured it would be 'nicer' if I could just add that.. its less to eventually add to a final 'board/project'
Im far from anywhere near that point..lol
I still have a DKU-5 cable I cold check out too I suppose..??
hmmmmm