How to send a sms with a Sony Ericsson phone

kristof, great that you manged to get it working.
Could you share the code you used with the newsoftserial library?
My code example above was intended to be used without the newsoftseial library.

Yes, it is possible to read a incoming sms and then do something, i did something like that a while ago and could turn on/off lights at home.
Let me share the code for that with you here later today or tomorrow.