Dimming an AC light

you can use transmiters, to flash with those bulbs, 5V closes the circuit
they are cheap, and if you need only 3 bulbs, you don't need to worry about current supply, I could connect 15 of them, the rest is just to program it how you want to work...

http://www.laro.com.pl/pdf/hm4100f-5v.pdf