First, I'm very thankful for your help, great community here.
Second, I solved it 
or to be precise someone pointed me to a problem with the ofxOsc library and bundled osc messages, so it was related to Open Frameworks. Here is the link for everyone who runs into the same issues and stumbles over this thread
http://forum.openframeworks.cc/index.php/topic,6563.0.html
so long, nixon