Still, It irritates me when I'm passed by as an engineer because I can give birth to children, both myself and my husband are engineers & I have been called his secretary on more than one occasion, even though I am more qualified, and have more experience than he does.
2 things . . . I can't be anybody's brother, and 6 Minutes and expecting an answer is unrealistic face to face never mind on a public forum. For your demanding and sexist attitude, a can give you the code, but you can stick it . . . . . where ever you want
What is a um232r? what diagram are you using? what is or is not happening? what program are you using to do bootloading? have you connected everything up correctly? can you take a photo or 2 of your wiring?