they didn't smoke fast, it took like a hour. i had it working and installed in the car i was test driving it when they burned up.
here are the new relays i am using http://relays.tycoelectronics.com/datasheets/T9A_DS.pdf
using and 1N4003 diodes, 1k resistors, 2N2222A transistors.
can't do any tests till relays get here.
on the diode the white stripe is the direction of flow right?