These are the connectors:http://www.sparkfun.com/products/570
You can't use it on anything but a pcb. The ribbon cable is FAR too fragile to have them floating on a cable.
The only thing on the breakout board that you really need is the boost converter. These displays require 7v to power the backlight. It is possible to do this with a capacitor voltage doubler though - this method is alot cheaper, and in fact you can make an arduino PWM output do it with just two additional diodes and two capacitors.
The connectors are very hard to solder by hand. it is possible, you just have to be careful not to melt them. The simplest way is to find a breakout board for a 0.5mm pitch 10 pin TSSOP package, which are quite cheap, and solder the connector to that using desolder braid to ensure there are no shorts. If using that method, be very careful to support the display and stop it flapping around.
Beyond that, you just need a 1.8K resistor inline with each of the comms lines (SCLK,SDATA,RS,CS).
The displays of ebay can be very hit and miss as to what controller they are, so it might take some experimentation to get the code working. (My library should work with most of these screens: https://github.com/TCWORLD/gLCD-Library