I have rX and TX hooked up properly,
RX of breakout is to TX of chip, and TX to RX, plus I tried them backwards too just to be sure...
Did you connect the CTS input on the FTDI breakout to Gnd also?
I just tried, still not responding! I am running out of ideas... maybe the FT232RL eeprom needs to be programmed differently to work with the optiboot?