if your able to change the fuses you can run the chip using the internal 8Mhz oscillator
Can also use resonator. Will not be as stable timing wise but will work.
Take some very clear pictures and post here
oscillators are 3 pin packages, what you discribe is a capacitor
If you do not have the correct resonator in your grab bag let me know and I will drop a couple 16 MHz resonators in an envelope for you.