What is the diameter of the pins? The drawing does not seem to say.
Well standard male IDE header pins are .025" X .025" square with 'filed' points to aid insertion into female IDE sockets pins, but if you don't have a micrometer or other means to accurately measure what you have I don't know what to tell you to do?
Sounds like its time to add a new tool to the tool kithttp://www.harborfreight.com/4-inch-digital-caliper-47256.html
But if anyone has an idea of a header that is useful for this sort of thing,