...am having a slightly big issue ...
Does the resonator have to be removed?
Connect an LED + current limiting resistor. If the LED lights, the resonator is running. If the resonator is running, you can reprogram the processor; it's just a matter of getting the ISP bitrate low enough.
@dc42: Does the resonator have to be removed? Will it be damaged by a clock signal on XTAL1?
@Nick - Should I go lower than -B5 rate?
@dc42 - I have Saleae Logic analyzer, should I be able to use that to test if there is a signal being outputted?