The only Uno that needs that 10k was the R1. For windows with the Uno R2 and R3 have the FLIP software installed and short the DFU Reset to Gnd (pins 5&6 on the DFU ICSP header). This should initiate the New Device wizard where you will have to install the ATmega16u2 driver (if you have an R3) from the FLIP software directory. After installation of the ATmega16u2 device, then you should be able to run the FLIP and connect.
Personally, I find it easier to hookup to the DFU header with a programmer and AVRDUDE