Hi,
just got this stuff from Italy, connected as shown here:
http://arduino.cc/en/Guide/ArduinoMini 
Unfortunatelly I do not see numbers on capacitor well, so this reset pin is connected to +5V .
Everytime I want to upload "blink", I get this error: stk500_getsync(): not in sync: resp0x00.
1) which programmer I need to choose from menu? (I googled a bit, and have seen some answers that when I use usb to serial - does not matter. I do not believe it too much)
2) settings for the COM port? BPS,DB,P,S,FC (I tried from 9600 to 115200)
3) could the capacitor help? should it be 100nF or 100uF?
Thanks in advance