The one on the instructables doesn't have a female header on pin 1, but mine does. I think that's what you mean. Mine has a female header on pin 1 and is also pulled high by a 10K resister. Also, I have added a 10K resister to pins 2 and 3 (tx and rx). Basically, the board is a duplicate of the breadboard with oscillator @ http://www.modsbyus.com/use-the-ftdi-basic-breakout-board-to-program-an-atmega328p-pu-with-optiboot/minus the female headers.
The link you have shown using the oscillator is WRONG. The capacitors on the crystal should be 22pf not 22 microfarads.