Can I have more information about programming it not to reset?
No you can't program it not to reset...
The RSTDISB fuse you need it to program the chip
I think that it was a pull-down, rather than "between", which implies series connection to me.
Its not wise to change. The RSTDISB fuse you need it to program the chipThe best option is to remove the capasitor conected to the reset line (and manualy reset the arduino on upload)