DTR connected to Pin 1 for "auto reset" with a 0.1uF capacitors ( not sure why... )
Speed should be 57600 for uploading.
I am using a 16.670 MHz crystal.
Once the 'Binary Sketch Size' message pops up, I hit the reset button quickly and away it goes !
I hold down the reset and click upload. Then when the message apperesI count / say to myself "one and two" after the message before releasing the button.I find that if you hit it too quickly after the message then it won't work.