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robtillaart


Came across this list from (ao) internet pioneer John Barlow.

https://kottke.org/18/02/a-list-of-25-principles-of-adult-behavior-by-john-perry-barlow

food for thought.
Rob Tillaart

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Robin2

To save people going after the link
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1. Be patient. No matter what.
2. Don't badmouth: Assign responsibility, never blame. Say nothing behind another's back you'd be unwilling to say, in exactly the same tone and language, to his face.
3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
4. Expand your sense of the possible.
5. Don't trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
6. Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver.
7. Tolerate ambiguity.
8. Laugh at yourself frequently.
9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
11. Give up blood sports.
12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Do not endanger it frivolously. And never endanger the life of another.
13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
18. Never let your errors pass without admission.
19. Become less suspicious of joy.
20. Understand humility.
21. Forgive.
22. Foster dignity.
23. Live memorably.
24. Love yourself.
25. Endure.
There is a lot of repetition (needs to learn to use functions)

Number 13 is a cop-out.

And I don't agree with Number 16. The much bigger problem is over-use of the word "you" as in "you never listen", "you are a fool", "you are always talking". All of those attempt to lay blame. It is impossible to know what is in another person's mind. Saying, for example "I don't feel listened to" explains the only thing I know - how I feel.

I object to the message in Numbers 15 and 23. The marketing folks will love it as it creates the notion that a person has no worth if they do not excel and is a recipe for unhappiness and debt.

...R
Two or three hours spent thinking and reading documentation solves most programming problems.

larryd

"desiderata"

Thank you.

"Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver."
The only thing I disagree with, I have too many things I cannot deliver.   :smiley-confuse:





No technical PMs.
The last thing you did is where you should start looking.

TKall

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Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
You've got to be kidding.  Where does the guy wearing the suicide vest fit into this? Or the mugger, or drunk driver?

Qdeathstar

A creaking creeping shadow
stiff against the freezing fog
glares at a tickless watch.

Time has failed him -- all things shall pass.

TKall

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Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver.
I'll keep this in mind if I ever need a surgeon.  Or a lawyer, or an accountant.  I wonder of athletic coaches adhere to this principle when training the team.


Henry_Best

I would change No. 4 to
"Expand your sense of humour."

TomGeorge

Everything runs on smoke, let the smoke out, it stops running....

larryd

What is "SIX" ?     8)
No technical PMs.
The last thing you did is where you should start looking.

Qdeathstar

Sex is covered in 24 and 6.  Speaking of that, I was doing #24 vigorously the other day and I happened to look over and Alexa had her blue light flashing like she was recording me.  Creepy.
A creaking creeping shadow
stiff against the freezing fog
glares at a tickless watch.

Time has failed him -- all things shall pass.

ardly

You've got to be kidding.  Where does the guy wearing the suicide vest fit into this? Or the mugger, or drunk driver?
He did not say they were more noble, just not to assume they did not think they were noble.
The suicide bomber is prepared to die, is a drone pilot more or less noble?
"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored" - Aldous Huxley

TKall

The drone pilot that kills the suicide bomber is more noble. 

Robin2

The drone pilot that kills the suicide bomber is more noble.  
Not in the eyes of the suicide bomber - which is the point that was being made in the table.

Whether you like it or not, successful terrorists become politicians.

...R
Two or three hours spent thinking and reading documentation solves most programming problems.

Qdeathstar

Who care about the eyes of the suicide bomber, they aren't recoverable.


A creaking creeping shadow
stiff against the freezing fog
glares at a tickless watch.

Time has failed him -- all things shall pass.

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