You could try the hack where you remove the AVR chip from the duemilanove and use its serial driver to connect to the 1284...
How did you put a bootloader on the '1284?"Connected Rx, Tx, Reset pins of 2 boards together. "Grounds are connected also?'328 is removed during this so it is not interfering?
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