Alrigth i've tried the correct Pin labeling and it is still not working 
Since you seem to know alot about this kind of stuff and it seems to be not working with the parts I have at the moment, could you tell me what parts you would recommend for using? (I was thinking about using a normal Arduino and a real esp8266 and controlling the NeoMatrix via the Arduino.
Side note: The project im trying to do is to put it simple controlling a LED Matrix via a Website that is hostet on a access Point (At the moment the esp8266 on the Wemos is doing that).
If you had any good recommendations I would be really happy!
Thanks again for everything and explaining all that stuff!
Greetings Crocs