look guys its a simple wiring job ,NO, the pins 1-16 are not connected backwards do you think i am stupid ?,i have 1-16 numbered on both sides of the display and theyre all wired u p as the youtube example above ,all very simple stuff .i have worked in electrical engineering all my life .
the codeing is as i have posted .i will try the different numbers in the code when i have time to do it ,i have more important things to do ,like wife and family, job and earning ,and other hobbies ,arduino stuff is low down my priorty of things to do .