With the SW SPI constructor
U8GLIB_SSD1306_128X64(sck, mosi, cs, a0 [, reset])
you can use any Arduino pin. For example
U8GLIB_SSD1306_128X64(1,2,3,4)
tells U8glib, that the sck line of the display is connected to pin 1 of the Arduino board, MOSI (data) line is connected to pin 2 of the Arduino and so on. In fact you can mimic the Adafruit setup with U8glib (pin values from your table):
U8GLIB_SSD1306_128X64(10, 9, 12, 11, 13)
Also ensure, that your display is put into serial mode.
Oliver