Step 1: calm down and relaxStep 2: describe which OS you are usingStep 3: learn how to connect to an Arduino Board with avrdude (-t option)Step 4: learn how to flash an Arduino BoardStep 5: learn how to connect to a naked chipStep 6: learn how to flash a naked chipOnce you answer #2 we can figure out #3. Then we can progress. Skipping the intermediate steps is not recommended unless you already have sufficient experience.
OK, does Arduino IDE + Arduino work in your setup (without ISP)? That is: can you flash sketches with IDE + bootloader?