You can read about and get Processing from here :
http://processing.org/The Serial port setting for processing depends on how many serial ports on your computer. The Processing sketch shows you all the ports it can find, it will try to attach to the first one but you will need to modify the Processing sketch if Arduino is connected to a different com port.
I would think a search should turn up plenty of help for getting Processing working with arduino.
But if you prefer to set the time from the Arduino IDE, here is how you do it:
Modify the Arduino DateTime sketch by change:
#define TIME_HEADER 255 // Header tag for serial time sync message
To
#define TIME_HEADER 'T' // Header tag for serial time sync message
Compile the sketch and upload to the board.
Click the Serial monitor icon (it's right most square icon at the top of the Arduino IDE). Set the baud rate for 19200.
Go to one of the many internet sites that provides the current time in Unix format, for example:
http://www.epochconverter.com/This will show you the current time GMT, you will need to convert it for your time zone.
You can manually enter the current date and time and the page will calculate the unix time. Copy the unix time ( a ten digit number with starting 1239??) and past it into the serial monitor send window (the text box to the left of the send button).
Paste a capital T in front of the ten digit number - it should look like this:
T1239130053
Press the send button and you should see the time updated in the Serial monitor every second.
Good luck!