Hello Bodmer,
It is still not workung 
At first I updated your TFT_eSPI library to the latest version.
Then I edited the User_Setup_Select.h according to your advice.
Then I wired it up to your advice, but I noticed a small deviation:
Your picture shows two GND Connections.
But in your description there is only one GND Connection, and one additional 5V or 3.3V connection
Wring must then be:
Display SDO/MISO to NodeMCU pin D6
Display LED to NodeMCU pin VIN (or 5V)
Display SCK to NodeMCU pin D5
Display SDI/MOSI to NodeMCU pin D7
Display DC (or AO)to NodeMCU pin D3
Display RESET to NodeMCU pin D4
Display CS to NodeMCU pin D8
Display GND to NodeMCU pin GND (0V)
Display VCC to NodeMCU 5V or 3.3V
Display Touch_CD to NodeMCU pin D1
Maybe this is the problem.
Where is this connection located on the display?
Thanks and best regards,
Chris