4n35 Optocoupler as Switch

Been researching relays more. What im looking for is a 5vdc relay that will latch to apply 12vdc to a dc device. I want the relay to not require power so my circuit is energy efficient. The relay will be driven by an esp-12e. Is below the relay I should've used?

https://www.ebay.com/itm/1-pc-Bistable-latching-2-coil-relay-5V-coil-16A-contact-SPDT-RT314F05/362154527599?hash=item5452178b6f:g:9FAAAOxyY3ZRkQUO

or

https://www.ebay.com/itm/Bistable-Latching-DPDT-8A-Power-Relay-Module-DC5V-Coil/191122298692?_trkparms=aid%3D555019%26algo%3DPL.BANDIT%26ao%3D1%26asc%3D50686%26meid%3D68a7e9ddbf9b4c78b78e8087b5271c89%26pid%3D100754%26rk%3D1%26rkt%3D1%26%26itm%3D191122298692&_trksid=p2045573.c100754.m4842