A pre compiled hex file into an ATtiny13 MCU

You don't need to understand the internal details of AVRDUDE. You just need to copy and paste a command.

If you want easy then just use the Arduino IDE with regular Arduino boards. If you want to do more advanced things like mass programming ATtiny13 then it's going to take a little bit of effort on your part. The choice is up to you.

In "the real world" not everything is a pointy clicky GUI.