The last question I asked about getting a wireless relay with xbee up no one answered? Is there any other place I can ask?
Thanks
Your question was far too specialized and contained no links to the equipment you wanted to use.
It was also very non specific, in other words you did not have a clear question. A vague "does anyone know ho to do this" is not going to get much response. It also sounded quite complex.
That question (like a lot of questions) had so much going on, it was hard to know where to start.
Okay, a relay controlled by an xBee module receiving signals from an xBee receiver attached to an Arduino that is polling information collected from a Web page.
There is a lot there. A specific question on how to get XBees up and running would likely get some answers. Maybe a specific question on how to get an Arduino to interface with a Web page (Python? I don't know, actually) would get some responses. But guidance on that thing all as one problem? Not bloody likely.
Thank you so much grumpy mike and bigred1212. I will make my questions simpler and include part links as well as show my attempt to do it! 
Its not the forum that your using incorrectly but your brain!.
The last question I asked about getting a wireless relay with xbee up no one answered? Is there any other place I can ask
Split it up
Can you use a relay with an arduino - yes of course ( I assume you wan't the arduino+ xbee to be the wireless bit).
Can you use an Xbee with the arduino
By the way a relay is the most expensive and worst way of controlling anything other that voltages/currents that no one here should play with. See transistors/mosfets.
Mark