Arduino 433mhz RF simple led on and off HELP!

but its so confusing i dont even understand how the receiver decode the message.

That's the great part about using a library. You do not need to understand how it does it's magic.

What you get is a return code that says whether or not the library got any data, and, if it did, a length and a buffer with the data in it.

The buffer CAN be a char array. The length tells you where to put the NULL to make a string of the char array.

Then, strcmp() can compare the buffer to known commands, like "LedOn" or "TakeAHike".