I trick I was told was to use a footprint (board, SMT adapter, etc) and just hold the SMT part down and program it.
That sounds like a pretty good method. I'm pretty adept at soldering SMT parts though, so since I have to solder the processor down eventually I figure I might as well do that first and then program it. With Mike's program, I don't need to borrow an ICSP programmer.
Cleaner, funny. Just one more application for the Arduino. Open source boot cleaner. 