Arduino Duemilanove + Arduino Mini 04

Hi, I am trying to use Arduino Duemilanove as a USB serial to load the programs to mini 04. I got all the things rite, except for a simple question. I am supposed to connect tx to tx and rx to rx and then the reset to the reset. Now, when I look at the pin diagram of Duemilanove, the first pin is marked as reset. But in the board the first 2 pins are marked as tx and rx. I am not sure where to connect the reset, tx and rx. could someone please suggest.

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