there may be only ONE "Arduino Ethernet Shield" board
There are at least 3 that I know of using the Wiznet chip: Adafruit and NKC have their own variants of the "official" design. I have two of the Adafruit boards, and am happy with them.
I've also seen at least one shield for the Microchip Ethernet chip (ENC28J60??), and I'm pretty sure I've seen mention of others.
So it's really important to identify which shield you're using when asking questions.
The table details many shiilds and the pins they use.
I spent hours looking at schematics (where available) and also used info from Mowcius' site and the Arduino site, but don't treat the list as gospel, many schematics are confusing plus I got a bit cross-eyed after a while. Also some schematics were in a version of Eagle I coudn't read.
Hopefully one day we can build on this to provide a comprehensive resource.