Arduino Nano and HC-05 Bluetooth module upload issue

I'm trying to upload to arduino wirelessly without using usb cable, after looking through numerous tutorial online/youtube i still could not figure it out. I have changed the HC-05 to slave and set it at 57600 baud rate, and im following this tutorial but i could not achieve what was shown in the video:

I have attached a screenshot of the issue on arduino, and a drawing of my connection.
Any help will be much appreciated!!
Thank you

In matters of power, and the lack of same:

  1. If it says on the back of the board "power 3.3v", then clearly it is OK to power it off the 3.3v pin. If it says "power 3.6v - 6v" , then that is what you should do, and using 3.3v is a bad idea.

  2. Using a 9v battery as you imply, i.e. a 9v PP3, is never a good idea, and a very bad one when you are having problems. Use a power supply that supplies power.

Thank you for your advice, will do so!