I am on 1.0.1.
@Brad: Thanks for the info, I'll keep it in mind!
I have several Atmega168A but they all show the same behaviour by now.
Burning bootloader for external 8Mhz or 16Mhz: everything works as supposed to (with the crystal of course), ASCII example works fine, serial flashing works
Burning Lilypad bootloader with internal 8Mhz: Clock seems pretty off. ASCII example at 115200 works fine but this is at 9600 (anything below 115200 is not much better)
Maybe that is why it cannot be flashed with 19200 bauds via serial.
But how come?
There is not much to see: a 10k pull up, the SPI pins and Rx,Tx and the blick cable I use to reset the bootloader.

Internal 8Mhz at 9600bauds:
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$ "?ã'?5 B?x'?³ zt'¢3 ¥n'?0?1LH$ ¢?c'?6 Â?ø'?´ úô'¢4 ¥n'?0?0j?I ¢?c'?ºbB?áé 2M zt'¢ªb¥¹é 10?0LHÈb"?é 38, hYé & zt'¢²b¥n'?0?1j
"?é 39,B?x'?7 zt'¢ºbbZË?±?1Ìj??dY,4b «á:?8 zt'ª0 ¥n'?0L?0C¡? "?c'¢1 Â?x'?9 zt'ª1 ¥n'?0L?1
!?dY,4& B?á: 2A, oct:ª2 ¥¹:??????j
+ "?c'¢3 B?áé 2B zt'ª3, bin: L?0Lj??dY,4 B?áé 2C zt'ª¢b¥¹é 101100
-, dec: 45, hex: 2D zÑé 55, bin: 10L??
!?dY,4 B?á:?Å út'ª6 ¥n'?0L?0C¡?dec: 47,B?á:?2± oct: 57, bin:?01L?
!b VÖé b «áé 30,zt'²0 ¥n'??0000
1, dec:¢9 B?áé 31, kÑ:²1, bin: 110001
& "?c'ª0 B?x'?2 zt'²2 ¥¹é 110010
3 "?: 51, hex: 33,zt'²3 ¥¹é L?0Lj
"?c'ª2 B?x'?´ zô'²4 ¥¹:?1?0j
M "?c'ª3,B?ø'?µ zt'²5 ¥n'?1?°ÌH6 "?c'ª4 Â?ø'?¶ zt'²6 ¥î'?1?1j
"?c: M B?ø'?7 zt: Ób ¬Ëé L?1Lj
b V:ª6 B?x'?8 zt'º0 ?¥î'?±L?0C¡bdY,5 B?x'?9 zt'º1 ¥n'?1L?1C!â Öºª8 B?x'?A zô'º2 ¥î'?1L?0C¡b V:ª9, hex: 3( zt'º3 ¥¹é 111?1C!b V:²0, hex:?C zt'º¢b¥n: 111100
=, dec: 61, hex: & zÑé 75, bin: 11LL?j
>, dec: 62, hYé 3E, oct: 76, bin: L????j
?, dY,63 B?x'?2± oct: 77, bin:??11Lj
± V:²4 B?x: 40, oct'?0b ¬ËK1000000
¡± V:²5, hex: 41, oc?1?b ¬ËK???????j
( "?: 66, hex'¢2 zt:?02, bin: 1?0?0
¡± dec: 67, heé Ób oct: 103, biK1?0??j
D, dec:²8 B?á: 44, oct: 104, bin: 1000100
E,"?c'²9, hex: 45, oct: 105, bin: 1000101
F "?c'º?bB?áé 46, oct:??²b¥¹é 1000L?j
G, dec: 71, hex: 47, oct: 107, bin: 1000111
H, dec: 72, hex: 48, oct: 110, bin: 1001000
I, dec: 73, hex: 49, oct: 111, bin: 1001001
J, dec: 74, hex: 4A, o,????,¥n'?0?0Lj
K, dec: 75, hex: 4B, oct: 113, bin: L??0LLHL, dec: 7 Â?x'¢C, oct: 114, bin: 1001100
M, de,7 B?áé 4D, oct:?15 ¥n'???????j
N "?é 78, hex: 4E, oct'??²b¥¹é 1001110
O, dec: 79, hex: 4F zt'??ºb¥¹é 1?1L?j
P, dec: 80, «á:ª0 zÑé 120, bin'?0L?0j
T "?é ?,B?x:ª1, oct: L¦b ¬Ëé 1010001
R "?c'Â2 B?x'ª?bzt:?22, bin: 1010?0C¡ÅdY,'Â?, hex: 53 zt'???b¥¹é 10100LLC! "?é 84, heé M zÑ: 124, bin:?0L???j
U, dec: 85,B?á: 55, oct: 125,¥n: 1010101
V, V:Â6 B?x: 56, o,?1& ¥¹: 10L?1j
"?é º,B?áé 57, kÑ: 1¦ ¥¹é 10101LLHX "?c'Â8 B?x'ª8 zt'?3b¥¹é 1011000
Y, dec: 89, hex: 59, oct: 131, bin: 1011001
Z, dY,9b «á:ª
± oct: 132, bin: 1011010
[, V: NbB?áé 5B, kÑé 133, bin: 1011011
Å"?é N& B?x'ªC zÑé 134,¥¹é L?1L?
¡ÅdY,'Ê3 B?x'ª"± o,?1¦ ¥n'?0L?0LHÈÅdY,'Ê4 B?x'ªE,zt'?3 ¥n'???1L?
¡ÅdY,9M B?x: 5F, kѺ?³ ¥n: 1??1Lj
± ÖºÊ6 B?x:²0 úô'?4b ¬Ëé LL?0?
¡± V:Ê7 B?x'²± zt'?4L ¥n'?1?0?
!± dY,9b «á:²?bzÑé 14& ¥n'?1?010
c, de,9N B?x'²3 zt'?´& ¥¹é 1100011
! "?c'???bB?áé 64, kÑ:?4 ¥n'????1?
¡ "?: L?bB?áé 65, oct: 145, bin: LL????j
f, dec: 102, hex: 66, oct: 146,¥¹é 1100110
g, dec: 103, hex: 67, oct: 14 ¥n'???0111
h, dec: L¢b heé b kÑé 150, bZK1L?000
i, dec: 105, hex: 69, oct: 151, bZK1L?0?j
j, dec'?0 B?áé S± oct: 1M& ¥n'???1010C¡?dY,1º,B?x:²± kÑ: 153, bin: 11?0Lj
?dY,'??ÂbB?áé Ó± kÑé 154,¥n'?1?1?
¡? "?é 109, hex: 6D, oct: 155 ¥n'?1?1?j
n, dY,1Lb «áé S zt'?5 ¥¹: 1101LLj
?dY,1LL B?áé 6F, oc?1M ¥¹é L?±Ì?
!± dY,'???bB?áé 70, oct: 160, bin'?110000
q, dec: 113, hex: 71, oct: 1Sb ¬Ëé 1110001
. "?c'??¢bB?áé 72, oct: 162, bin: 11100Lj
s, dec: 115, hex'º3 zt: 163, bin'?1L???
! "?c'?1 B?x'º¢bzÑé 164,¥¹é 1110100
u, dec: 117, hex: 75, oc?1Sb bin: 111?0LHv ¢?c'??ÂbB?áé 76 zt'?6 ¥¹é L?0L?
¡ "?é 119, hYé Ó zÑ:?6 ¥n'?1L???j
x, dec: 120, hex: 78, oct: 170 ¥n'?111000
^ "?c'?21, hex: 79,zt'?71 ¥¹é 1L?0?
¡± V:?2& B?x'º
± oct: 172, bin'?1L???j
{, dec: 123, hex: 7B, oct: 173, ¬Ëé LLLL??j
|, dec: L& B?x'ºÃ zt: 17 ¥¹é 11LLL?
¡± Vé 125, hex: 7D, kÑé 175, bin: 1111101
~, dec: 126, hex:º*± oct: 176, bin: 1111110