groundFungus:
We are operating in the dark here.
Ugh, I apologize...
From the beginning:
I follow Nick's guide carefully. My wiring is exactly like his on the pictures.
Detecting chip, selecting and burning Lilypad bootloader, verifying... this part works everytime without failure.
Verifying ...
No errors found.
Done.
Type 'C' when ready to continue with another chip ...
So, I accept that the bootloader is installed correctly. (Please refer my OP if more info needed).
Now I connect my FTDI adapter, as per reply#3, with 0.1uF capacitor to reset.
With Lilypad w/Atmega328P selected, I try to upload Blink sketch. Which fails every time. I tried other boards, like Arduino Pro or Mini.
I reinstalled the FTDI drivers, since it bothered me that the adapter only shows as 'Com11', and not FTDI or someting. Drivers installed correctly, but cannot upload sketch.
avrdude: stk500_recv(): programmer is not responding
avrdude: stk500_getsync() attempt 10 of 10: not in sync: resp=0x56
I have replacement parts for everything, except the 10k pullup resistor that Nick has on pin1 of Atmega chip. It is the only part that I have not swapped out.
After many many tries I went back to Arduino Uno as uploader. I managed to get the Blink sketch uploaded on 3 occasions, but trying a new sketch I get the 'programmer not responding' again.
Wiring:
Arduino - ATMega
Reset - pin1
0 - pin2
1 - pin3
5V - pin7 and pin22
GND - pin8 and pin20LED+ to resistor to pin19
LED- to pin22
Thank you again for your patience, I know I am all over the place...