Attiny 85

Hi guys , maybe you have seen my last post i'm a noob and what-so-ever , so I got myself an attiny85 and tried to program it for the past 4 - 5 hours ago , some people said that they need to use the capacitor to stop the auto reset , so i did and it didn't work , and then I started searching for another option which was to upload arduinoIsp to the board and press the reset button then upload the program/sketch when the tx/rx (i forgot which one , don't blame me i'm am a noob ) light turn on you release the reset button . After trying that for i guess 6 times , it suddenly stops the auto reset ! any possible explanation ? (I'm preety curious)

now i'm uploading sketches without capacitor .
Im using uno R3 the (atmega328)

now i'm uploading sketches without capacitor .
Im using uno R3 the (atmega328)

Loading to the tiny85 or loading to the Uno?

There has been a tremendous volume of Q/A regarding the tiny85 in recent days (stocking stuffers?) And a search of the term "attiny85" will return large results. You may also want to review posts specific to user "Coding Badly"
... I got 10 pages just now!

Ray