I didn't use a capacitor for reset I connected everything according to the instructions of the official site as i told you and used resistors between the digital pins 13,12 and 11 (that work as MOSI,MISO, SCK)
( https://www.arduino.cc/en/Tutorial/ArduinoISP).. I am trying to post photos but it doesn't show them, so I am attaching links to these photos
