How to in incorrporate a general TV remote to control an Arduino.
Take a look at Ken Shirriff's IR library: A Multi-Protocol Infrared Remote Library for the Arduino
+1 for IR remote library and tutorial on Ken's blog.
I did it successfully, it's very easy with that library and a couple of the sample sketches.
I forget the sketch names, but use one to diagnose the button codes. Say the "channel +" button produces a code 123456 and "channel- is 456789. Then your real sketch just looks for those codes, to (say) increase or decrease the speed. Very pseudo code below.....
if code is 123456
speed = speed + increment
if code is 456787
speed= speed - increment