Not totally burned , when i plug in usb ( in to the original port ) i get power and the last code that was uploaded to the AtMega is running but i cant upload a new one and the pc doesn't detect the Arduino.
Now i dont understand what the RTS/CTS (Request to Send / Clear to Send) pins stand for and therefor i dont know how to use them :~
Why are you suggesting RTS -----> RESET , CTS -----> GND?
Some say i need to put RTS -----> CTS...
On an FTDI you have CTS pin, which is connected to GND (in some cases, for example in the FTDI itself you don't need to connect it because it's internally connected, but i don't know about that one)
RTS -----> RESET (Because you need to reset the IC before flashing it)
Also i'm sorry i forgot but you need 0.1uF capacitor in between.