The circuit I'm making is a triac controlled by a opto-darligton connected to my board.
The reason why I want to use Neutral as 0v for the opto-isulator and my board is to prevent current fluctuations created by the difference between outlet Earth and Neutral voltages.
If I use Earth on the opto or board and Neutral for the triac load, who can get a stable signal amp?
Mains neutral should always be treated as dangerous - any fault in the mains appliances or wiring
can make the neutral live (perhaps only for a fraction of a second before a fuse blows).
Even in normal operation you might expect 10's of volts between neutral and ground, depending
on phase-imbalance, local earthing arrangements and how dry the ground is.