If you look in the start of the topic, I linked to another topic where I learned a lot but could not get that to work.
It seems like a big problem cause whenever this kind of question comes up, everybode just say "Look at the Blink without Delay()" but no one makes a code that can do it... Or is it just me??
I know I'm not a coding genius, but I can make my way round the forums and peace something together 
Now I'm trying to load the code up to a Pro Mini that will drive it all...